There is no doubt that this is a challenging and trying period. But do you know that you are equipped with a level of resilience that helps you to deal with it?
Resilience is not something you are born with; resilience is something you cultivate from the time you are born based on life experiences and personal growth. The American Psychological Association defines resilience as the process of adapting well in the face of diversity, trauma, tragedy, threats or significant sources of stress. Making it through one of these situations is an exercise in resilience, and hopefully, an experience that results in some newfound strength, too.
As a Christian, you have a leg up on resilience! Jesus modeled resilience as he met with opposition from others but continued to keep going, and with a positive, loving attitude no less. Now is the time to look to our inner strengths and to see what God has placed in our toolbox.
How to Improve Your Resilience
1. Think positive thoughts. Your thoughts directly impact your feelings and behaviors. Negative thoughts are like poison that makes you feel awful about a situation. But when you have positive thoughts, you experience more positive emotions and see more possibilities. (God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. Psalm 46:1)
2. Embrace change. By anticipating change and accepting difficulties that may come with change, you will be more prepared when change occurs. These are opportunities for personal growth.
3. Establish realistic goals. Do not ignore the difficulties in life. If you resist, the difficulties persist. Instead, figure out what you can do, then get to work.
4. Learn from past experiences. Reflect on past hardships. What worked and what did not? Remember that failure is often a good teacher – learn from it.
5. Make it meaningful. You are wired for meaning and purpose. When you find meaning, you find a reason to continue. If you’re not sure what your purpose is, try practicing gratitude and make time to be a servant to others. You might be surprised by what you realize through these experiences.
6. Connect with others. You are a social being! Your support system is essential during a time of trial. Connect with others at Saint Peter, in your neighborhood and in your family.
7. Practice self-care. This is essential to preventing and reducing stress and enhancing your well-being. Be aware of your physical, psychological, spiritual and emotional needs. Self-care options include exercise, payer/meditation, journaling, hobbies and healthy eating.
8. Look to your faith and Jesus! (I can do all things through him who strengthens me. Philippians 4:13)
This article was written by the Saint Peter Stephen Ministry team. One of us is available to visit with you or even just pray for you. If you could use a listening ear, send a note to stephenministry@stplc.org.